"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." – Mahatma Gandhi
Whether it’s a broken relationship or a career disappointment, there will be times when you feel rejected or let down. It doesn’t matter who you are, how much money you have, or where you live. It happens to all of us!
Even though you may get knocked down and feel like you failed, there is power to be found in forgiving others. Sometimes, you might even be the one in the “wrong.” Rather than focusing on who wronged who, there is strength in forgiveness.
Acknowledge What Happened
It can be easy to think that if you ignore a negative situation for long enough, it will go away. That isn’t the case, especially when hurt feelings are involved.
Instead of letting it take over your life, give yourself time and space to acknowledge what happened. Try to take a step back and look at it from a third-party perspective. It is easier to process an event, forgive, and start to heal from it when you have a clear understanding of what happened and why.
Letting Go of What You Can’t Control
The next step in forgiveness is understanding that some situations are simply out of your control. You aren’t always going to get an explanation from the other person(s) involved. Whether it’s someone else’s feelings or a decision made in the workplace, there are times when you just have to let go.
You can drive yourself crazy thinking about how you would change a situation or what you could have done differently. Instead, take a deep breath and understand that sometimes things happen, and no matter what we do or how we act, we can’t control it.
Cry it Out
There’s nothing wrong with letting your emotions out, especially after a rough situation where you feel let down or betrayed. Whether you need to scream, cry, or journal your feelings, get them out of your body and clear them from your mind.
Learn a Lesson
The truth is, sometimes heartbreak happens to teach us a lesson. Accept this lesson and do your best to understand it. Instead of choosing to be resentful, find the lesson in the sadness and use it as an opportunity to grow.
Embrace the Power of Letting Go
Forgiveness is self-care! No really! There is scientific evidence that forgiveness leads to improved health. Not only will forgiveness make you feel better emotionally, but it can also improve your mental health, lessen your anxiety, lower your blood pressure, and improve heart health.
If something prevents you from forgiving the other person, take them out of the equation. Instead, forgive them for your own personal purposes.
Reach Out for Help
There’s nothing wrong with reaching out for help when you need it. If you are having trouble forgiving and moving on from a particular situation, there is no shame in calling in the help of a therapist or life coach.
A skilled professional can help guide you through life’s big transitions and find the clarity that comes with forgiveness. Speaking of clarity, check out my free resource, which will help you get the tools you need!
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