Humans need other humans. We were designed to live, work, and play in a supportive community of other people. It helps us cope with difficulties, build self-esteem, and celebrate our wins.
However, the “village” mentality has died out over the past few decades. The innate feeling of community isn’t what it used to be. So, how do you build a support system in a society focused on individualism? Keep reading for some of my favorite tips.
Focus on Friendships
According to the American Psychological Association, friendships provide more than just some good laughs. They actually keep us healthy!
The APA says, “People who have friends and close confidants are more satisfied with their lives and less likely to suffer from depression. They’re also less likely to die from all causes, including heart problems and a range of chronic diseases.”
Solid friendships can make a difference in our lives and are worth the time and effort spent nurturing them. If you aren’t surrounded by a solid group of friends right now, don’t worry! You can do many things to help find fulfilling relationships, even later in life.
Nurture Existing Relationships
Building a solid support system doesn’t happen overnight; you also don’t have to start from scratch. A big part of nurturing relationships and keeping them going over the years is learning how to adjust your expectations to meet the relationship's needs at the time.
For example, your adult children can be essential to your support system. But for that to work, you have to adjust your relationship with them. You won’t have the same connection with your kids as adults as you did when they were children. Learning how to navigate that change will go a long way in keeping that relationship solid.
Rediscover Old Passions
Having things in common or doing things together is a big part of bonding with other people. When you’re actively searching for connections, it can be beneficial to rediscover your old passions. By doing this, you reignite that light inside yourself and introduce yourself to a whole new network of people.
If you used to love to paint, why not sign up for an art class at your local community center? Love to read? Sign up for a book club at the library. Used to dance? See if you can find an adult dance class.
Understand It’s a Give and Take
For relationships to work, both people have to put in the work. Sometimes, you’ll give support, and sometimes, you’ll receive it.
Nurturing relationships and finding people who will show up for you means showing up for others, too. When you focus on giving love and support to others, it will return to you.
This idea goes both ways. There is nothing supportive or positive about a one-sided relationship or friendship. If you get to a point where you feel like the relationship is causing you more frustration than not, there’s nothing wrong with distancing yourself from the negativity and looking for support elsewhere.
Get Help Building Your Support System
Building a support system isn’t rocket science; it also takes hard work to find and build those connections you crave. With the right strategies and a growth mindset, you’ll be able to find the support you need.
If you’ve been struggling with finding the right group of people to support your goals and dreams, reach out to me. My one-on-one coaching opportunity could help you develop a game plan to build the support system you truly deserve.
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